Why You Need to Give Yourself More Credit

It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Time for caroling, ugly sweaters, never ending hot chocolate, and white elephant gift exchanges. This time of year also brings with it our beloved end of year reviews!

This week I had my year end review for my job. Before the review I had to rate myself on a scale of 1-10 in a few categories. The prep was nerve wracking! In the pursuit of humility, I scored myself right in the middle or one point above the middle in areas where I know I could have scored higher. I went into the review with a positive attitude and high expectation that I would receive genuine feedback about my work outcomes and character. What I did not expect to receive was a shedding of the years of lies that I’ve told myself. All of this came out with one simple statement:“You’ve…

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One thing I noticed about being mom is constantly feeling sluggish. I was always tired from the night before with a fussy baby on top of working full time and trying to be a “good wife,” I.e. Not drive my husband crazy….I decided that I needed to take more control of my joy and energy. Here are 10 things that help me have a great day.
1. Mug of Tea

First thing in the morning I love to enjoy a fresh mug of tea. My favorites, Oregon chai, lemon ginger, and Jamaican Strongback. It helps to wake me up and settles my empty stomach.
2. Fresh air! It helps me get my body moving when I step outside and just intentionally enjoy the beauty. Often times I will sit there while drinking my tea and I like to say aloud some positive affirmations or gratitudes.
3. Shower. There is nothing like feeling fresh to help me wake up and be amazing! I intentionally make sure to use my favorite soaps or body washes like Aveeno or Burts Bees peppermint and rosemary. 
4. Get dressed. Don’t just throw anything on. My mom always told me to dress for the day and don’t “save” outfits for a special occasion because Every day is a special occasion! My mom and my Grandma Lenestine never walked out the house without taking special care with their hair and outfit. I’ve learned to do the same, I even have a term called Candy Casual.
5. Eat breakfast! Thus is your most important meal, it gives you fuel. Add some proteins, fruits, fiber to that plate. 
6. Drink! Keep yourself hydrated throughout the day with fruit infused waters! You and your body will love the benefits of drinking lots of water.
Laugh! My husband is a jokester, so we like to watch funny videos or sing made up songs.
Pray. This is most important out of everything. Spending time with Jesus looks different from everyone. You might follow a daily devotional, journal quietly, pray for others, whatever it is that you do, make it he most important thing and create an environment that gets you excited about waking up to spend time in the Word.
This is my typical morning routine. Other things I have done to ensure a great day

-Remove clutter and minimize

My husband and I just did a haul on our home. We washed every item of clothing or blanket and gave away what we weren’t using. This created more space for us to move around and also helps with our thinking. When you have more space it just does something to your mind, it allows for more creativity to flow to you. 

-Have a schedule and review it daily. 

I don’t like when things just pop up one me so I try to be intentional about knowing my schedule, my husbands schedule and the kids schedule. That way I have peace and I’m better prepared to tackle the day.
-Clean up. This falls in line with removing clutter. One thing I don’t like is waking up to a dirty kitchen. I blame it on my southern upbringing. You do not leave the house dirty before you leave or go to bed. Everything needs to be cleaned up. I used to be super annoyed with my mom or Grandparents for doing this, but now I see why. 1- you never know when someone is coming by for an unannounced visit (happens more in the south than here in the Midwest) 2- It feels good to wake up to a clean home. It just does something to your psychii (look up statistics)

Kids like routine too, I’ll share more about how’s husband and I manage their routine in a later post. 

what I know for sure

What I know for sure?

What do I have to get to where I need to be?

How do I create the life I want?

I came across these questions in an “O” magazine while waiting in the dentists office one day. I was in my second month as a new mom, my hormones were out of control, I was tired and still feeling the void of no longer working in full-time ministry.  Three years ago I knew for sure that I wanted to build a community center in my hometown of Brewton, AL, mentor youth, serve in ministry, get married to a chocolate brotha and have a few babies.

Well, fast forward to the present. In the fall of 2013, I married a chocolate brotha, adopted his babyboy and we welcomed our sweet daughter in the summer of 2014.

As we near the end of 2014 I’m reflecting on those questions that sang across the page of the magazine….

What I know for sure?

I am loved.

Sometimes I might have to “do it afraid.”

I am incredible, there is no one like Candy.

I can do it-God is cheering me on!

Success comes in many forms.

Every second  I have the chance to start over.

I can create the life I want.

Change is a process, not an event.

What do I have to get to where I need to be?

I have faith in God’s plan.

An incredible husband who constantly reminds me of who I am.

I have friends and family who believe in me.

I have the gift of relating to others.

I have creativity, drive, and untapped resources.

I have an accountability partner.

How do I create the life I want?

I create the life I want by going out and doing what I see for myself!

I write it out, visualize it, speak it, do it, follow through and most importantly pray for wisdom.

If you didn’t accomplish all that you wanted to do in 2014 or even in years past. Don’t fret, just ask yourself…

What do you know for sure?

What do you have to get to where you need to be?

How do you create the life you want?